Dating Violence

What is dating violence?

Dating violence is any intentional sexual, physical or psychological attack on one partner by the other in a dating relationship. Statistics about dating violence are alarming: one in three high school students have been or will be involved in an abusive relationship. 40% of teen age girls 14-17 say they know someone their age who has been hit or beaten by a boyfriend.

Victims and abusers of dating violence come from all social and economic
backgrounds, faith communities, and racial and ethnic groups.
Dating violence can also occur in same-sex relationships.

Dating violence is something that happens to other people, not me, right?

Dating violence can happen to anyone regardless of gender, sexual orientation, race, age, or socioeconomic status. Because of this fact, it is important for you to know the warning signs and methods of self-protection. You are important and your safety is our concern.

Dating violence is about power and control.
All forms of abuse are harmful and need to be taken seriously.

What are some of the warning signs of dating violence?

• Keeping silent about the abuse
• Unexplained bruises, scratches or injuries
• Fear of partner
• Partner’s controlling and jealous behavior
• Partner’s constant criticism and, at times, public humiliation
• Isolation from friends and family because of partner’s pressure and jealousy
• Partner threatens you if you want to break up
• Verbal/emotional abuse

85% of rape victims know the offender.
It is never the victim’s fault why a rape occurs.

How do I protect myself from date rape drugs?

• Never accept an open beverage.
• Watch your beverage at all times. Don’t put your beverage down, walk away, and expect to drink it when you come back.
• Watch beverages being poured for you.
• Use your friends and have them watch your beverage and you watch theirs.
• If you feel that you have been slipped a drug, tell your friends. Go to the emergency room if necessary. You may need medical attention. Call your parents or another trusted adult.
• If you decide to risk drinking alcohol, always know your limit. Sometimes binge drinking can cause the same effect as a date rape drug.

To read or print out more information, click the following links:
Teens: ask the questions (PDF)
Teen Power & Control wheel (PDF)
Power and Control Wheel for Gay, Lesbian, Bi and Trans Relationship (PDF)